Jennifer Lopez has opened up about one of the toughest periods in her life, revealing the blunt pep talk she gave herself after her divorce from Ben Affleck.
Speaking on the SmartLess podcast, the global superstar reflected on the emotional fallout of the split, which came just two years after the pair tied the knot in 2022. Lopez admitted the past few years had been “a tumult”, but said the experience ultimately forced her to confront herself in a way she never had before.
At the height of that difficult period, Lopez said she made a conscious decision to stop, cancel her tour, and take a hard look inward. It was in that moment she delivered a tough-love message to herself, realising she needed to take accountability for her own choices.
In her own words, she told herself to “figure yourself out”, adding that she needed to stop focusing on others and accept that, “there’s nobody to blame… except yourself”.
The candid admission highlights a major shift in mindset for the singer and actress, who said she has spent the last couple of years healing and rediscovering who she is. Lopez explained that the person she is today feels completely different from who she was even a short time ago, describing the transformation as “crazy”.
She also acknowledged that part of her growth came from recognising patterns in her own life, including behaviours and choices that may have contributed to past relationship struggles. By taking ownership of that, Lopez said she has been able to better understand herself and move forward in a healthier way.
Now, Lopez says she’s in a much happier place, embracing her independence and appreciating the life she has built. After a highly publicised relationship and breakup, it seems the star is focused firmly on self-growth and what comes next.
